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Sealed to husband before baptism

Posted: Sun Apr 05, 2020 11:31 am
by KattGillespie
Hello! My husband just joined the church and was baptized recently. His cousins by marriage has been a member for years. He went on to the Family app and discovered something strange. His cousins is not related by blood to their shared grandmother. In truth she is a step grandmother to this cousin. When he clicked on his step grandfather the cousin’s biological grandfather he saw his step grand father’s work was done... and that he was sealed to my husband’s grandmother. This cousin is in no way related to this grandmother. How was this cousin able to bypass the permissions to get her biological grandfather sealed to her step grandmother? How is this able to be done when the deceased has not been through any other ordinances? He says it’s fine, but I think my husband is a bit disturbed he was not contacted nor his living mother (cause if she was contacted then would not the other ordinances be done?) please shine some light on this, I don’t like how pensive he has become.

Thank you for the answers you have.

Re: Sealed to husband before baptism

Posted: Sun Apr 05, 2020 2:50 pm
by russellhltn
This might be a better question for the FamilySearch community.

You didn't say when the grandparents were born. The rules depend on if they were born before 110 years ago. (As of this post - that would be anyone born before 1910). My own grandparents fall into that category.

If they were born more than 110 years ago, no permission is required. He can do "Biological, adoptive, and foster family lines connected to [his] family".

If they were born within the last 110 years, then permission is required. However, I'm not sure how that works in the case of sealing when you're only related by blood to one but not the other. The message that pops up doesn't cover that situation. It sounds like he did all the work for his blood line - including sealing all they were married to, but didn't do anything else for his step line. Keep in mind, it's possible he might have gotten permission from someone else.

Also keep in mind that while we have the responsibility to make sure all the work for our ancestors are done, because of all the children they had, you may not get the privilege of doing the work for them. If anyone else in your husband's family joins the church later on, they're going to find all the work has been done and they would not get that privilege.

Re: Sealed to husband before baptism

Posted: Sun Apr 05, 2020 3:04 pm
by KattGillespie
Sorry I might have posted this in the wrong place! His grandmother was born in the 30’s so definitely not 110 years ago. But that is definitely worth knowing.

There’s no one else left in his family, my husband’s. No cousins, no anything his mother is an only child she has no siblings her mother the grandmother in question, her whole family is dead. Long dead.

I think in the end what matters is it’s been do e and she now can accept it or not in heaven. But this isn’t my family (if you can understand)

Re: Sealed to husband before baptism

Posted: Mon Apr 06, 2020 3:11 pm
by sbradshaw
You could try posting at to see if someone there has more insight into what should be done.

Re: Sealed to husband before baptism

Posted: Mon Apr 06, 2020 3:52 pm
by KattGillespie
Thanks will do!