Newly wed couple living with parents

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Newly wed couple living with parents

Postby jaysonplazo » Sun Jun 09, 2019 4:20 am

Hi, i have a question.

I got married 2 weeks ago and at the moment we are living with her parents. I came from another ward and when they have moved my record I was put in the household record of her father so I was listed under him. Is this the norm or can me and my wife have our separate household even if we are living in the same address as her parents?


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Re: Newly wed couple living with parents

Postby rmrichesjr » Sun Jun 09, 2019 8:12 am

I would suggest asking either the ward clerk, bishop, or branch president (depending on situation). I recall having seen instructions that it is okay to have multiple households at the same address. At least in the ward where I currently serve as membership clerk, in most situations like this there would be two households. Someone may chime in later with references to specific instructions.

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Re: Newly wed couple living with parents

Postby eblood66 » Sun Jun 09, 2019 9:46 am

There can definitely be multiple households at the same address. In every unit I've been in married couples are always put in a separate household even if they are living with parents. But ultimately it's the bishops decision but he will definitely take the needs and wants of those involved strongly into account.

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Re: Newly wed couple living with parents

Postby johnshaw » Mon Jun 10, 2019 9:24 am

You are a separate household, it makes no sense to have the records reflect this. One thing that might have happened is the records came in prior to the sealing/marriage but NO you are not the same household.
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Re: Newly wed couple living with parents

Postby davesudweeks » Mon Jun 10, 2019 10:45 am

My recommendation is, don't get wrapped around the axle - just go to your clerk or assistant clerk-membership and ask them to split you into your own household with your wife. Then ask him to print you the Individual Ordinance Summaries (IOS) for your family so you can check everything to make sure it is correct. It really is that easy. I have been a clerk for many years and we often are given very limited information on the details. They may have received a text from the bishop stating only "move so and so into the address of such and such family."

Clerks are human and make the best guess given the information they have available. We make mistakes and make bad decisions due to flawed information from time to time, but we are happy to fix them.

My youngest 2 children, both recently returned missionaries, are still living at our home and each are their own separate household. My son has his record in the singles branch and my daughter chose to keep her record in our family ward.

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Re: Newly wed couple living with parents

Postby sbradshaw » Tue Jun 11, 2019 7:15 am

A benefit of being a separate household, besides being easier to find in the directory, is that you can have separate ministering brothers assigned to you.
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